Last Updated: Oct 20, 2019 @

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Some of my nieces at the wedding in traditional Nigerian attire, with the littlest addition. boy, do girls outnumber the boys! :-)

Wedding in Nigeria! And what a fun one it was. Home is where the heart is, they say. I tend to agree, especially the older l get. I just got back from a trip to my country of birth, Nigeria. It was a 3 week visit with Mummy, and the rest of my siblings. It was absolutely wonderful.

As l said previously, I am one of eight children by my mom. It was the first time in a while that all of us (except for my late sister) were in the same place at the same time. We tend to travel a lot. You will find that true about most Nigerians. They will travel far and wide to provide for their family. I was impressed as to how the whole Ebola thing was being handled. Upon arrival, you are asked to fill out a form detailing your flight itinerary, and contact details.

Your temperature is taken at the passport control, and if it’s high or they have cause to investigate further, you are taken out of line for further questioning etc. Billboards, radio and television ads reminded people constantly what to watch for, do and where to report.

Nigerian Landscape:

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Ibadan rooftops Nigeria while l was home for a typical Nigerian wedding

 

cattle herders nigeria with flock
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cattle herders nigeria with flock
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Cattle herders guide their flock on the side streets. This is common site in Nigeria, and indeed all of Africa.

markets scene Nigeria with white van being loaded with goods on side street
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markets scene Nigeria with white van being loaded with goods on side street
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Market scene in Lagos. Once that van is fully loaded, the tires will become almost flat. No weight control here! :-)

A farmer is hoeing and planting seeds on a green field in Ibadan Nigeria
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A farmer is hoeing and planting seeds on a green field in Ibadan Nigeria
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A farmer hoes and plants in a field. There is a lot of rain, so while it does destroy the streets with flooding and huge gaping holes, it also makes for lush and green landscape.

cows waiting to be sold in the market..long shot
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cows waiting to be sold in the market..long shot
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I know it’s a faraway shot, but was in a car. This is the meat market and those are cows waiting to be sold. Since Nigerians are constantly celebrating something, it is a very busy market indeed, and draws people from the whole region.

Life in Nigeria: Indulgence

My mom had suffered a stroke about 4 years back, and her short term memory is still not very good. Usually, it takes her about 2-3 days after my arrival for her to fully recognize me. Imagine my delight when she knew who l was, right from the get go. She more alert than the last time l saw her. Not bad for an 89 year old widow! My days consisted of hanging around with my mum, siblings and extended family, of which there is a lot! A whole lot.. :-) .

I also indulged myself with massages, body scrubs, facials. The exchange rate is so favorable ($1 to 175n) , that a massage for instance costs $9 for 1 hour, and that’s with them coming to your house, so of course l had one a week :-) . It was also a mere $6.50 for a manicure/pedicure, home visit. My sisters and l indulged quite a bit. I also needed a new pair of glasses. My sister made one phone call, and the optometrist sent over a whole bunch of frames that he thought would fit my face from a picture l sent him.

I chose a pair, he took my glasses with him to duplicate the prescription and brought them back the next day along with my new pair. Total cost? – roughly $30. I made sure to tip generously. Life is hard for over 90% of the population, who exist on way less than $100 a month salary. Yes, l could have fought traffic and gone to the salons etc..but why? to save and extra dollar or so? .. Mmmmm… no!

I got to crash a party with my sister-in-law, so l can cross that off my bucket list. She had an invite to a 60th birthday party, and asked me to come along. Despite what it said on the invitation, l wasn’t even questioned by the guards. I was wearing the color theme. Not only was the table front and center, the food absolutely delicious, the entertainment fabulous, l even got a swag bag.

Part of the entertainment at the party l crashed..
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Part of the entertainment at the party l crashed..
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Traditional dancers at a Nigerian party. Part of the entertainment at the party l crashed..

 

Getting past these cops was a breeze..
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Getting past these cops was a breeze..
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Getting past these cops was a breeze..

My siblings and l got to check up on a health center that we had taken upon ourselves to improve. It is located in the little village that my dad grew up in. To say it was in desperate condition would be putting it mildly, the birthing room especially, and the ancient equipment. It has improved vastly already, new roof, better equipment, paint etc. It was quite busy when we visited, and would have been inappropriate to take pictures. I refuse to show you the before pictures.

Nigerian Traditional Wedding:

One of my favourite nieces got married. She recently moved back home after college in Dallas. That was a fun weekend. My outfits were tailored at the last minute, based on the measurements l sent home via email. I should have added a couple of inches, so as to allow myself to eat and sit comfortably. It was only after the first day that l mentioned how tight fitting it was, that l was told you had to pull the skirt up, then sit.

What a relief the second day!!! :-) :-) :-) . It was a traditional wedding. There were 750 invited, l estimate at least another 300 “mo gbo, mo ya” which translates to “I heard, l came”.  My sister tried to be fancy by handing out this credit card invites, which you had to turn in to be seated…hah hah hah!!!.. didn’t work…it did provide quite the laugh for us though!!! This is Naija after all! :-) . You add it in to your costs. Just as I crashed that party, so did many at this wedding.

Wedding in Nigeria:

bride and groom with parents dancing.
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bride and groom with parents dancing.
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Court marriage in Nigeria is done as well, but most people prefer the more common church wedding.

Weddings in Nigeria is a booming business and one that keep thriving. Nigeria is a very populous country and they love celebrating unions more than anything. Your Nigerian wedding pictures can be taken by the most talented photographers. The Nigerian traditional wear is scouted at markets throughout the country to find the best colors and price. The Nigerian bridesmaid dresses are also either hand sewn or bought at retail and then embellished if needed.

Nigerian traditional weddings are a lot of work, both for the bride and groom, but also for the parents. They also cost an amazing amount of money because the Nigerian culture is a very competitive one. There is the constant need to outdo each other. I think that probably holds true for any African wedding. i would estimate a typical Nigerian wedding cost at about $30,000 at a minimum.

Nigeria Wedding Pictures:

image of groom and bride dancing at nigerian wedding celebration.
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image of groom and bride dancing at nigerian wedding celebration.
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The bride in one of the most gorgeous Nigerian couture wedding gowns. A Nigerian wedding celebration is a day long event.

Nigerian Money Dance:

One of the reasons the parents are willing to spend huge amounts on the wedding is that we don’t have traditional wedding gifts. Money is given instead, which is preferred. The parents get part of their expenses reimbursed (sometimes in full) and the bride and groom can spend the money on things they actually need.

"spraying" the bride while dancing at a nigerian wedding
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"spraying" the bride while dancing at a nigerian wedding
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This is called “spraying”. Nigerian bride dancing is showered with money.

 

back of nigerian bride wedding dress and husband
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back of nigerian bride wedding dress and husband
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Wedding gowns in Nigeria can be custom made by local designers or they are often bought overseas. There is no such thing as traditional wedding dresses style as one is only limited by her vision and money.

 

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A Nigerian wedding day starts early and ends late. Here the Bella Naija fashionable bride and groom get ready to cut the cake at the wedding reception.

Nigerian Wedding Tradition: Prostrating before the family to ask for permission to marry the bride

Groom and family asking for the bride's hand in nigerian marriage
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Groom and family asking for the bride's hand in nigerian marriage
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Groom and friends asking for the bride’s hand in marriage. A Nigerian culture marriage involves a lot of rituals such as this to entertain the guests.

 

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The band serenading the bride at the Nigerian wedding celebration. The talking drums are my favorite!

Nigerian Bride Entrance:

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bride dancing- home in nigeria
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Dancing and laughing her way in.. The bride in traditional Nigerian wedding attire.

 

traditional outfitted groom
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traditional outfitted groom
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The groom is wearing a Nigerian traditional wedding attire outfit with traditional beads.

Nigerian Tradition Wedding Attire:

Since most Nigerian traditional wear are sewn by hand, it is very rare to see 2 of the same design, unless it’s co-ordinated. People are influenced by Nigerian traditional wedding style design magazines that are plentiful, and then put their own unique stamp on it. Since they are custom made, the sky is the limit as to what you can do with your outfit, for example adding rhinestones to the material, gold, dipping it to make a unique colour. The same thing goes for the shoes and jewellery, and yes..the shoes.

image of Nigerian bride in wedding attire and head gear silver and teal colors
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image of Nigerian bride in wedding attire and head gear silver and teal colors
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A smiling bella Naija bride in outfitted in a traditional Nigerian color coordinated wedding attire.

 

brothers and sisters in nigerian wedding attire traditional
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brothers and sisters in nigerian wedding attire traditional
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Bellanaija asoebi in effect – A family portrait in Nigerian traditional wedding attire and headgear.

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l find myself embracing the simple things in life..like home, family… and laziness! :-) , How about you? any plans to be with family soon? holidays are coming up! Are you headed home?