A traditional West African engagement post that l have been meaning to put this up for a while :-). As usual, life got in the way. These images are from a typical engagement party, an all day affair. This one is a Nigerian one, but l understand that most countries in West Africa do the same thing.
Unlike your western wedding, the traditional engagement/wedding is usually done in one weekend. The reason being one of convenience. Most relatives would be most likely scattered all over the world. This allows them to enjoy both occasions with just one plane ticket!. It does get pretty pricey :-)
Traditional West African Engagement:
When the bride is proposed to, there is usually an informal get together, where the families meet and greet. Then the preparation starts. The color theme is chosen, bands, venues etc. a year or so before the actual event. *Affiliate links in post*
Usually, the engagement is on Saturday, and the wedding the next day. Guests range in size from 400-1500, sometimes more.. we’re not the most populous place in Africa for nothing ;0)) . It is also common for uninvited guests to show up. There are a lot of poor people and they will show up to eat, most weddings will take this into account and plan accordingly.
You often see people stuffing their bags with food to bring home. The only thing they are usually stingy with is alcohol. This of course could be a good/bad thing for the bride’s family. It costs a lot, but on the other hand, you rarely get toasters and such. It’s straight up cash! It is not unusual to get back just about every cent you put into the wedding, usually more. Here are some images captured on their special day. I might put up the wedding ones in a separate post.
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As you can imagine, the wedding business is quite big in Nigeria and other African countries. For the most part, divorce is not an option, therefore people really make every effort to make sure they find the right person. While other cultures may consider it intrusive, it is not unusual for the parents to be involved as far as doing due dilligence about the family their child is marrying into.
One thing that l love about the color scheme is that it is easy to identify which side (groom or bride) you belong to. No need to ask when they enter the church for instance, just go for the color. There are also many subgroups with their own colors. For instance, the bride’s college friends would all wear the same colors etc. Definitely a sensory overload, but so much fun.
What do you think of this traditional West African engagement? Would you like to attend this? or is it just too much for you?